It can be a challenge getting those first few dates when you’re a BBW, but BBW dating sites can make the process go smoothly. These sites can help you with plus size dating so you can meet more Black BBW/ BBW singles than if you were on one of the regular dating sites. Now that you’ve managed to connect with some of the members on your favorite BBW site, you’ll want to ensure that you have the most successful first date possible.
1. Agree to a one hour first date. Usually women and men know within the first 90 seconds if they’re actually going to like each other. This can be based on appearance, attitude, and respect. You don’t want to be hanging out with someone you don’t like. Set your first date for one hour, with a potential for an additional hour if you’re having fun. Book the long dinner and movie dates for another time.
2. Check your appearance. There’s no need to wear full makeup, jewelry, and a dress, but at least put some effort into it. Ditch the sweatpants and t-shirt and dress neatly.
3. Consider a large friends date. Perhaps a group of your BBW friends could get together with a few BHM. Not only does it increase your safety if you go to a first date with friends, but it increases your chances that you may like one of the men too. It could lead to an individual date with them.
4. Select a quiet location. You may love your local bar but if it’s a noisy environment, it may be difficult to hear your date talk. Choose a quiet coffee shop location, but perhaps one where there’s a corner, so you can still feel you have some privacy from others.
5. Avoid talking about politics, religion, or your ex. It seems like a given, yet you’d be surprised how these topics can come up on a first date. You can mention you are divorced or widowed, but that you’re here to learn more about your date than talk about the past.
6. Make a pact to turn off the cell phones. You can both turn off your cell phones and put them away for an hour. This will allow you both to focus on each other, rather than peeking at your cell phones every few minutes. Also, do the same for tablets, computers, pagers, iPods, or any type of electronic device.
7. Create a list of questions. When you’re meeting with an attractive man, you may stumble on what to ask him. That’s why it’s important to write out a list of questions to ask in advance, and memorize them. He’ll be impressed that you are interested enough to ask him questions.
It may take some effort to have a great BBW single’s date, but eventually, you’ll meet a man who will also want to go on a second date with you. Most of all, don’t forget to smile during your first date!